The other day, I got a comment from a photo I took of them.
“Wow, you must have a nice camera!”
“Um, thanks,” I grimaced.
I think I know what they mean. Then again, let’s go through some analogies that have probably been exhausted.
- To a chef: “Wow, this dish tastes fantastic! You must have an awesome oven.”
- To a painter: “That piece looks immaculate! Your paint and brushes must be exquisite!”
- To a writer: “I loved your novel – what version of [insert document processor] do you have?”
- To a musician: “I loved that song! Your guitar has to be expensive.”
- To a baseball slugger: “You’re an impressive hitter. Where did you buy your bat?”
Let’s go about this another way. Let’s say you watched a terrible indie film, and your friend was the leading role.
“So, how’d you like it?”
“I really liked the costumes.”
Look. It’s the tool, but only to a certain extent. Those are backhanded compliments — an insult in disguise. You might have the best intentions, but…no. Stop it.
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